Lisa_K wrote:Remember writing letters on actual paper, sending them off and waiting for replies?
MikiSJ wrote:Thank you for a wonderful introduction.
I wish I knew where you are (I am in San Jose, CA) as I have a friend whose life parallels yours in so many ways. She is younger than you by about 8 or so years. She transitioned, surgically and culturally over 35 years ago on the East Coast, when she was 17. She is now married, happily and is active in LGB...T issues around here. It would be a delight to sit with both of you and listen to how you both grew up in a time of extreme turbulence, genderwise.
I have 8 years on you and only publically came out 4 years ago
I can't imagine what I would have gone through back then if I only wanted to be a girl.
I had not even heard of the word transvestite until I joined the Navy and by happenstance found a biographical tome by a wonderful woman, Charles Pierce. Charles Pierce was her stage name when she performed as a 'male actress'. It was only later in her life did she publically acknowledge her true gender as a woman.
You, my local friend and others of your era are the real pioneers that we all should hold in high esteem.
The best I could do about my gender confusion was to join the Navy hoping to 'man up' and get rid of my burden.
Please stick around the forum and gives us your insights so those who are contemplating GCS have just a bit more information at hand as to what it is like to become the 'you' you should be.
I just got back from Phoenix last Monday after an all-day electrolysis session. I am heading back at the end of June. Maybe we can get together for coffee or dinner.Lisa_K wrote:Reluctant as I am to divulge much personal information, I live in the 'burbs of the Phoenix (AZ) metro area.
Lisa_K wrote:wikipedia page which neglects to mention any acknowledgment of her true gender.
Lisa_K wrote:200,000 miles of motorcycle riding and even raced motorcycles in the 80's and the only sports I like are motorsports like Formula 1 and MotoGP so I definitely have some tomboy in me and I'm completely cool with that.
Lisa_K wrote:I hear what you're saying and know what you're feeling. I can't say my sense of self has been damaged per se but it has been a good thump upside the head or I've been given a fresh reality check maybe? This isn't my first rodeo with this, however. The year I had my surgery was about the same time Renée Richards was making the papers and I got my first real insight into what the general public really thinks about transsexual people. Like you, I've never faced any discrimination or transphobia because I was lucky enough to be well blended but seeing all the negative public opinion and the uproar it caused didn't do my self esteem any favors. It did help my mom to know that I wasn't the only one though. I hate using the word stealth because I'm not a military jet but all the hubbub about being trans back then drove me even deeper into the woodwork to avoid all the derision and hostility not to mention the fear of homo/transphobic violence and losing my job etc. I'd nearly been killed in high school and had no desire to repeat that experience.
Lisa_K wrote:With the recent rise of trans awareness in the media and folks like us being used as political pawns for pandering to the masses from both the left and the right, it is difficult to not internalize some of this. It is hard not to recognize some of the conflict and oppression and what's become even worse is that being trans something or another has become trendy and fashionable and adopted as a cause by SJW's seeking victim points that get lumped in and confused with those truly suffering from gender dysphoria. Hey, I'm all for people expressing themselves anyway they want to or labeling themselves with whatever 96 Tumblr genders they choose to use but my own opinion is this has only added to the backlash and complaints about things being forced or shoved down people's throats. It's a mess but I won't go further down this track in a mixed community to avoid offending anyone.
MikiSJ wrote:I just got back from Phoenix last Monday after an all-day electrolysis session. I am heading back at the end of June. Maybe we can get together for coffee or dinner.
MikiSJ wrote:Prior to helmet laws, I lost a cousin, a neighbor and a friend in separate motorcycle accidents
MikiSJ wrote:so I very seldom got on a motorcycle on the street. But I probably have a couple of thousand miles racing motocross on German made MAICO 250cc bikes in the early '70s.
MikiSJ wrote:I am also into Formula1 (Yeah Vettel and the Scuderia!) and MotoGP. I cannot believe you can pull 2+ Gs in a long corner on a motorcycle. I have also abandoned the NFL in favor of the British Premier League.
Rheya wrote:Reading your stories and thoughts here has been surprisingly refreshing for me. I've been struggling a lot with the whole idea that I am transgendered for some time now, something I did not struggle with before. I've also felt guilt about being invisible and "in hiding", I've even felt guilt about being okay with myself and not facing much transphobia when so many others struggle under horrid and inhumane social and physical conditions. It has given me some perspective on it all (in a good way).
Rheya wrote:I don't think that being transgendered has become fashionable or trendy, it is objectively false because no one chooses to have gender dysphoria - it can't be a trend or a fashion.
Lisa_K wrote:Oh, I think you might be a tad out of touch with what is happening, in this country at least. "Trans" is the new emo or goth or punk. The very term transgender has be so diluted and co-opted and the umbrella spread so wide that the word has become so nebulous in meaning as to be absolutely worthless. Young people are adopting 96 different genders, non genders, made up genders and things conflating gender expression and gender roles with gender identity all in the name of being transgender. It's a bloody kerfuffle if not an outright flustercluck, IMO.
Lisa_K wrote:I can't say I've struggled with being trans much beyond my teen years but recently I've certainly been reminded that I am or was. When there's been so much noise about it in the last few years and it's being used as clickbait and for political pandering, it's pretty hard to ignore or not take a personal stake in how things are presented or take notice of the perceptions of the non-trans public. However, it's not like you can choose to not be trans or that you embraced your transness based on concise logical and calculated thought or as a business decision when it is something from the heart and from the soul. In terms of the things you struggle with, think where you'd be if you hadn't transitioned or been through the things you have. I can assume there wasn't a whole lot of choice involved in this and in spite of troubling feelings or struggle, you're probably in a better place than you would have been? Don't sweat it and don't feel bad that your life hasn't been miserable.
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