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Coming out at work

Postby Pipadip » Sat Jul 08, 2017 1:13 pm

Hey,
Does anyone have any advice/experience with coming out at work. I'm going to be starting HRT soon, so I feel like I should let the people I work with know I'm trans so that any physical changes that happen doesn't come off as a surprise but I'm a little lost on how to go about it. Any input would be super appreciated!
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Re: Coming out at work

Postby Savage She-Hulk » Tue Jul 11, 2017 4:13 am

I'm only out to a single coworker, but I waited until I knew she was cool with trans people before I told her.

Wait for the proper window, I guess?
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Re: Coming out at work

Postby DawnF » Fri Jul 21, 2017 5:14 am

I have been growing my hair out for 6 months now, plus some breast massaging, which, to be frank, is giving fantastic results! People at the office are starting to stare, even gawk at me; getting dirty looks for a lot of people. Wondering how long it will be until I get fired. My company has a Pride group, but I have not yet contacted them. Have said nothing to no one.

Stay strong.

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Re: Coming out at work

Postby CuteButLooksPregnant » Fri Jul 21, 2017 10:16 am

DawnF wrote: Wondering how long it will be until I get fired. My company has a Pride group, but I have not yet contacted them.


Prepare for the worst ! I had a worked for a trucking company for 15 years, with a clean safety and driving record for 14 years. I transitioned on the job from a male truck driver to a female truck driver. I did it gradual, over a period of years. But when the Head Honcho saw me at a safety meeting, wearing what I had been wearing for quite some time, that is, a polo shirt and a denim skirt, pantyhose, and Mary Janes, and this turd of a manager spoke to me calling me by my dead name and he, his, and him, I knew the handwriting was on the wall. Soon thereafter, I was given the death penalty for spilling a glass of milk, figuratively speaking. I was fired over the phone, beaten down to a bloody pulp, by the president of the company.
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Re: Coming out at work

Postby MorganWoolf » Fri Jul 21, 2017 10:49 am

I think it wise for you to look up what protections your country/state offers. I'm worried about getting fired too, but I was talking with my gender therapist (first session too, yay!...anyway) and I told him my fears. Turns out Colorado offers LOADS of protections and is one of the safest states for trans people (really? cool!).
I didn't know that part. So, do some research on how to protect yourself. If you have a pride group, they'll probably know. If not, find a trans support group in your area, they should definitely know. I really don't suggest coming out at work without being at least mentally legally prepared.
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Re: Coming out at work

Postby MikiSJ » Fri Jul 21, 2017 1:37 pm

CuteButLooksPregnant wrote:Prepare for the worst ! I had a worked for a trucking company for 15 years, with a clean safety and driving record for 14 years. I transitioned on the job from a male truck driver to a female truck driver. I did it gradual, over a period of years. But when the Head Honcho saw me at a safety meeting, wearing what I had been wearing for quite some time, that is, a polo shirt and a denim skirt, pantyhose, and Mary Janes, and this turd of a manager spoke to me calling me by my dead name and he, his, and him, I knew the handwriting was on the wall. Soon thereafter, I was given the death penalty for spilling a glass of milk, figuratively speaking. I was fired over the phone, beaten down to a bloody pulp, by the president of the company.

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Re: Coming out at work

Postby DawnF » Fri Jul 21, 2017 8:34 pm

CuteButLooksPregnant wrote:
DawnF wrote: Wondering how long it will be until I get fired. My company has a Pride group, but I have not yet contacted them.


Prepare for the worst ! I had a worked for a trucking company for 15 years, with a clean safety and driving record for 14 years. I transitioned on the job from a male truck driver to a female truck driver. I did it gradual, over a period of years. But when the Head Honcho saw me at a safety meeting, wearing what I had been wearing for quite some time, that is, a polo shirt and a denim skirt, pantyhose, and Mary Janes, and this turd of a manager spoke to me calling me by my dead name and he, his, and him, I knew the handwriting was on the wall. Soon thereafter, I was given the death penalty for spilling a glass of milk, figuratively speaking. I was fired over the phone, beaten down to a bloody pulp, by the president of the company.
I hope you do better.


I may have gotten let go of my previous job of 17 years due to coming-out; in my case, I had only grown my hair down to just above my shoulders but was getting plenty of dirty looks. When I was severenced, I had no choice but to sign, else forfeit 26+ weeks of severance amounting to 33K. Companies can get rid of anyone for any reason and do so with near-absolute impunity.

Very sad what happened to you.

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Re: Coming out at work

Postby Abrielle » Sat Jul 22, 2017 12:31 am

[quote="DawnF"]I have been growing my hair out for 6 months now, plus some breast massaging, which, to be frank, is giving fantastic results! People at the office are starting to stare, even gawk at me; getting dirty looks for a lot of people. Wondering how long it will be until I get fired.
Dawn[/quote]

Hope I haven't misread your post, but overall it sounds like you're having a good time!
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Re: Coming out at work

Postby DawnF » Sat Jul 22, 2017 5:31 am

Yes, very much so! I am, for one, completely comfortable in a full skirt with sandals and would wear them to work if not for the gawkers.
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Re: Coming out at work

Postby CuteButLooksPregnant » Sat Jul 22, 2017 9:07 am

MorganWoolf wrote:Turns out Colorado offers LOADS of protections and is one of the safest states for trans people (really? cool!).


Not much that I could have done, not counting the fact that I am a poor gal, with no money for legal fees. I am a resident of Ohio, and the company had a branch office in Springfield, but Ohio does not have state-wide protections for discrimination based on gender identity and/or gender expression. The company that did their dirty deed has their headquarters in Georgia, USA, and operates their business under Georgia law, but Georgia has no protections for discrimination based on gender identity and/or gender expression. Also, I worked as an independent contractor, exempt from Federal and EEOC protections. From the viewpoint of those two states, what the company did was ( unfortunately ) still legal, although morally bankrupt.
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